Your in the middle of a terrible argument and everyone turns to you to help resolve it. How do you respond? How do you react to conflict?
Act cool, tell them I don’t need any help. Explain that I’ll do it myself. Do I need the help, Yes, most likely. Will I accept the help, no! By this stage I will be worked up and not in a fit state to accept any help. Something about being a man, too stubborn, too proud. There is a deep satisfaction in figuring something out and doing it yourself.
But mostly I would be too proud to ask for help or accept help. Definitely a chink in my armour, but what can you do? Some habits die hard. I don’t think I consciously do it but I get caught up in the moment and go into auto pilot and by the time I figure it out it is too late to go back.